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遇到他人批評時 該怎麼辦
Dealing with Criticism遇到別人批評自己，該怎麼辦？
Bad reputation is very powerful to use for your practice, and it should be used that way. As a Kadampa geshe once said, "If someone criticizes you, this destroys your mistakes; it blows away immediately one’s own mistakes. If you are praised, it causes pride/the ego to inflate and causes great pride." …
將「惡名聲」應用在修行上，會是很強大的力量，而且面對惡名聲就應如此地轉化。如同一位噶當巴格西曾經說過：「如果某人批評你，這樣會摧毀你的過錯；別人的批評會立刻讓受批評者的過錯消失殆盡。如果你受到誇讚，會導致驕傲/自我中心的滋長，引發更強烈的驕慢。」
Transforming bad conditions into happiness by looking at them as positive, favorable conditions is the way to make problems, bad conditions, beneficial, by using them as the path to enlightenment. How? Meditating on loving kindness and bodhichitta destroys the ego. We use them as a weapon to destroy the self-cherishing thought, which brings all obstacles. So, meditate on bodhichitta and wisdom.
把壞的遭遇轉化為安樂，正向地看待壞的遭遇，而愉悅的遭遇反而會招致問題，壞的遭遇對修行者是有益的，利用這些壞的遭遇作為成佛的道路。怎麼說呢？禪修慈愛和菩提心能夠摧毀自我，我們以此作為摧毀愛我執想法的武器，愛我執招致一切的障礙。所以，要禪修菩提心及正空慧。
In your case, use all the criticism and bad reputation, whether it is a result of your mistake or not, to destroy your ego and self-cherishing thought, which blocks one from achieving enlightenment. As long as self-cherishing abides in one’s heart, it stops one achieving enlightenment and benefiting all sentient beings. You can think of the kindness of the other person that helps you to destroy your ego. Usually, you are always supporting your ego, even developing it. Now, this person (the enemy) is helping to destroy your self-cherishing thought, so what is regarded as your enemy is really your most kind friend!
以你的經歷為例，要好好地利用所有的批評跟壞名聲，不論事實是否真為自己的過錯，目的是要消滅自己欲證悟成佛的阻礙——自我跟愛我執的想法。只要一個人心中順從愛我執，要達到證悟成佛及利益一切有情眾生的目標會被阻斷。你可以想，他人對自己的批評是一種慈愛，能幫助自己消滅自我。一般的情況是你總會站在自我這一邊，甚至壯大自我。當下這一位批評自己的人（或者你視對方為敵人）在幫助你消滅愛我執的想法，所以自己視對方為敵人，其實是對自己最仁慈的朋友！
What we do is use undesirable situations, loss, etc., as experiences to be of most benefit to all sentient beings. This is not just making one’s own life emotionally happy, for some temporary peace.
我們可以做的是，好好地利用讓我們感到不悅的情境或者損失等等，使其作為對一切有情發揮最大幫助的經驗。這不只使一個人為了暫時的心情平和，感到情緒的快樂而已。
There are other thought transformation teachings – so many ways you can make your life experience most beneficial for yourself and others. The essence is – if you are happy, make it beneficial for sentient beings; if you are suffering, use it as the cause to bring happiness to others. This way, whatever kind of life experience you have, use it on the path. There is no interruption to Dharma practice, and one’s life is most beneficial.
還有其它轉念的教法，有很多種的轉念教法可以讓你在生活的一切遭遇，都能夠成為對自己和其他有情最有助益的結果。這些轉念教法的精髓是：如果你感到快樂，要把快樂擴大，能對其他有情有所幫助；如果你感受痛苦，要將這痛苦的經驗作為讓其他有情得到安樂的因。這麼做的話，生活當中的任何經歷，都能夠轉為修行的道路。在修行佛法的道路上就不會有阻斷，而且你可以讓自己的生命發揮最大的利他意義。
Go Tsampa said, "Others’ mistakes are one’s own mistakes. Clarify the appearance of the mistake into the deity." This means, however one is treated is the result of one’s own negative karma. Even if others create a bad reputation for you, and there is no apparent cause from your side to experience the result, still, you have to have created the cause. You can see what this yogi is saying. The second part of this technique is looking at that person as the guru, even visualizing that person in the form of a deity. This stops anger and negative emotional thoughts arising and the suffering results of those.
Go Tsampa曾說過：「他人的過錯就是自己的過錯。要淨化顯現為過錯的表象轉為本尊。」這句話的意思是，自己不論受到如何的對待，是過去自己所造惡業的結果。即便他人無端造謠，而且並沒有顯而易見的原因讓自己蒙受這樣的壞名聲，仍是過去自己曾造下的原因所導致的結果，你可以從這位瑜伽士的話了解此意。後半段意思是要將對方視作自己的上師，甚至是觀想對方是本尊形相，這麼做會停止自己的嗔心以及產生負面的情緒，之後又必須受到這些嗔心及負面情緒的結果而受苦。
Karog Geshe said, "Experiencing this small suffering now finishes past negative karma, and there will be happiness in future lives. Because it finishes past negative karma, be happy for the suffering."
Karog格西曾說：「受此微苦，終了過去惡業，且往後生生世世將獲安樂。因為受苦了結過去所造惡業，所以要對受苦感到欣喜。」
Excerpted from “Criticism” in Lama Zopa Rinpoche’s Online Advice Book freely distributed by Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archive.
摘自「批評」一書，喇嘛梭巴仁波切線上開示的免費結緣書，由耶喜喇嘛智庫(Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archieve)出版發行。
原文出處：http://www.fpmt.org/enews/2010/fpmt/default.htm
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譯者：張春惠
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